So, today I’m talking about 3 huge topics! sex sex sex
Lets start with sex
To me sex is the
most important thing in a relationship NO NO!
Lets start again….it’s IMPORTANT! But not the most important.
It’s the sexual connections that’s more important or some would call it chemistry it’s I HUGE deal to be connected sexually (as well as mentally, & blah blah) to your partner. I mean if it’s not clicking than what’s the point?
Which brings me to sex before marriage is it okay? Is it not okay?
Really it’s up to you, don’t let anyone tell you what’s right or wrong.
I think it’s okay! As long as you’re not whoring it out & fucking every guy or girl you see than it’s fine. I do think that you should at least be in a committed relationship before sex. This sounds cliche but it does “feel” better. I know I sound like everyone’s mother, but it’s true.
one & done
Believe it or not, I think one & done’s can be okay lol. I mean lets say you just got out of a really bad relationship that drug on for 4947272 years & even before that you’re whole life was a relationship, I think it would be healthy to take a break & just have casual sex. Not saying with multiple people, but I mean if you have a sex buddy there’s nothing wrong with that (but please god wear protection) I actually have a guy friend that is going through this & I’m encouraging him to just sleep around. Everyone should have a whore stage it’s not classy by all means, but it’s healthy lol.
Now when it comes to sex I think that you should be a certain age. My opinion is 17+ now some people might say 17 is too young but I mean it happens & it’s better than it happening at 13-15. It’s true what they say about it being some emotional thing. It is, especially if you’re a women. There’s a huge emotion that comes with it that 13-16 even 17 year olds won’t get or understand. I mean sex is a big deal, but it isn’t if that makes sense. I mean I don’t like when people say “you’re not missing anything” because they must be fucking the wrong people because sex is fantastic, it’s great, it’s SEX!!! But at the same time you can wait! Because it’s worth it!
my first time
Yes, I’m going here….
My first time was far from glamorous or classy, or even romantic……
It was on my Bf’s room, on a twin size floor mattress going doggy style. (Oh yes)
& it lasted about 4 mins. Thinking back it was very disgusting & dirty. Like most people go for missionary the first time, but I went straight for the gold. So lets reevaluate one what I would change…
1) on a floor mattress : how barbaric?!?! I mean talk about non romantic! I never told anyone about this because right after it happened, I was mortified! So I would have made it my bed!! Because I had a pillow top dream mattress that had a headboard & floorboard & I had a queen size bed (yes, I’m a spoiled brat)
2) doggy style :again who’s barbaric? It was my boyfriends idea so I just went along with it. I mean it felt great, but I mean how classy is that?…it’s not so I would change it for good ‘ol fashioned missionary! (Which now I think is a total bore)
3) 4 mins : the fact that it lasted 4 mins should say how young we were LOL! So I would change it to about 4 hours & tell our young selves not to rush
The thing I wouldn’t change though is who it was with. I absolutely love & adore this man! He’s my other half, my partner, soulmate, love of my life! If you haven guessed its my current boyfriend. (He lasts a lot longer than 4 mins now.) No matter how awful it was (or not awful) it brought me closer to him, which ended up being okay. Yes we were 17 but we dated a couple years before we even had sex.
I mean if I had to go through that awkward moment in my life, I’m glad I shared it with him.
So don’t be afraid of sex, is a beautiful, awkward, amazing thing. I didn’t really go into tips or tricks of sex (that’s a whole other dirty blog) but here’s one DON’T GET BORED! Don’t be afraid to experiment with your partner. Switch it up, keep the passion alive in the bedroom. & secondly be comfortable with your body, the most comfortable you are, the better the sex will be.
until next time